Infidelity is a problem that affects millions of couples worldwide.
Whether it’s emotional cheating, physical, or both – a fallout can feel devastating and leave your relationship in disarray.
The good news is that you can recover from the problem.
Here are 10 tips if your husband wants to stay with you even if he is in love with another woman.
1) Make time for yourself and your relationship
I’m guessing your head is spinning with a lot of thoughts right now. Take a big breath. If this is new news to you, you may still be in shock.
The truth is, if you decide what you want, it will take time and patience to restore your marriage.
But that doesn’t mean you don’t need all the answers and solutions right away. The panic you are feeling right now is normal.
It’s okay to feel fear, doubt, anger, hurt, or any other emotion that comes your way. You have the right to feel everything you deserve to feel.
It will take a while for everything to sink in. You might want to get some space before you decide what to do.
You may not know if you want your husband to stay or how you really feel about the whole thing.
You don’t have to decide anything right now before you’re ready. Release your stress.
Know that you can take time to work things out for yourself and your relationship. It is good to postpone the final decision.
2) Talk to her about her feelings and tell her how you feel
Communication is the key to any relationship. But in reality, it also breaks down very easily.
Now is the time to put all your cards on the table and have an honest conversation with your husband.
It’s hard to fix a marriage if you can’t be honest about all the good and bad things you both might be feeling.
Now is not the time to hold back.
Even if you open your mouth and listen to him, it’s really fascinating. You both have a lot to hear and a lot to talk about.
If he was unfaithful (emotionally or physically), he may feel hurt and guilty.
He may feel like he doesn’t deserve you anymore. He must be embarrassed and ashamed of what he did.
Instead of jumping to conclusions about exactly how he feels, explain to him. Try to be as calm as possible. Try not to get angry when he says something you don’t agree with.
Allow him to talk without interrupting, and ask him to do the same when he does.
3) Why does he want to stay?
If your husband is in love with another woman but still wants to stay with you, the main question is why?
What is his motivation to continue in the marriage and how does that make you feel?
When you decide whether or not to repair the relationship, it may depend a lot on the reasons why he wants to stay with you.
If he’s sorry and still loves you, it might feel more encouraging.
If, on the other hand, he’s committed to your relationship and seems like being with another woman just isn’t an option for him, you might feel even more suspicious.
Some of the reasons why he will want to stay with you are:
He still loves you
He feels under pressure (from you, family or society) to stay in the family.
He is confused and doesn’t want to end the relationship
What you two have together is more important to him than the other woman
He is afraid of losing you
It is important to understand what he means. If he thinks he made a mistake and wants to change things, this is a sign that he is ready to work hard to fix the relationship.
If you’re going to undo the damage, he needs to show you’re sorry for what happened.
Even if there is no physical connection, falling in love with someone else is still an emotional betrayal and should be acknowledged.